The only thing that counts is faith expressing itself through love. Galatians 5:6

Tuesday, December 31, 2019

The Reckless Welcome: I Can't Wait To See Him Do It Again



This fresh snow,
come pasting in it did,
as if to wash away what's left
of this year, this decade past;
robustly singing
a wild white song
these last,
brief hours.

It covers the dregs
of my disappointment.


Pretends it's been winter
all along.
As if I won't remember
a Christmas greenish brown.

I welcome it anyways.
Pull up the blinds,
Let in the snow light.

Glad to be home with tea.
Glad to welcome winter.

But.....I know.

This snow wash comes on New Year's Eve.
How appropriate, I say out loud at the window.

Because,
in spite of myself,
I lift my face again
and open arms and heart
to a brand new year,
a brand new decade,
as if I didn't know,
as if the true things weren't.

As if I thought
but I don't
that nothing but happy
will happen these next 365 days,
these next ten years.

2019 is gone under a fresh wash of time.
That decade is done.
2020 here you are
full of the promise.
A decade full of possibilities.
And here I am
full of hope.

What is this reckless welcome?
As if I didn't remember
but I do
the 'all of it' that last year was,
that possibilities are also full of probabilities
which are also full of
possible,
probable
pain.

I notice this inside of me.
This reckless welcome
despite the knowing,
knowing it is not delusional,
knowing that this kind of knowing is just
real.

Knowing, without a flicker of hesitation
that
come what may
He'll be there.
Knowing that
come what may
His grace far outstrips
the enough that I'll need.
And He'll be right there
making all things new
and better than.
This I know
because this I've seen
time and time
year and year
decade and decade
again
and again.

He keeps on doing it.
Without fail.

I can wait to see Him
do it again.

A new year
a new decade
is recklessly welcomed
in a wash of snow-white gloried hope.

God still writes the story.






Wednesday, December 11, 2019

Home for the Holy Days



There is much in my heart,
these early-dark and closed in December days,
that pulls me inward to homesick ruminations.

It's a wispy thing,
since I find myself oddly home-abundant,
wherein there is not just one,
but truly three
places on the planet
which hold a deep knowing of
Home for me.

 Capital H Home.
The Home that is more about
belonging and longing,
graces and faces,
loves and beloveds,
light and delight,
than it is about
place and space.
Although it is still that.



My mind is quieter and clearer
at Home,
my heart content and excited,
my body relaxed and energized
at Home.

I love Home.

And lately,
right now,
in these early-dark and closed-in days of December,
into this particular Home-space
where I find myself now,
all Canadian and wintry and citified,
I feel the pull of with striking strength.

Something holy almost.

Stay Home.

I am compelled.

Protect the quieter, clearer mind.
Nurture the content and excited heart.
Listen to the relaxed and energized body.

Listen.
Listen.

Stay Home.

Home for the Holy Days of it.
For the prayer candles
and fireplace reading,
for the making of supper together at the end of the day,
for the white lights pushing back the early-dark,
for the tea,
for the mindfulness of teacher learnings
in all the preparation,
for the listening that happens
in the deepest places of me,
for the truth I tell myself'
and the better confessions
that happen in that larger capacity of self-grace
available because I am so deeply at Home.

Tis the season.
Longing.
Waiting.
Being.
Hoping.

Homing.













Thursday, November 28, 2019

The Lego Way a Soul is Formed



Supper is finishing when I arrive, which is kind of nice because, for a few minutes at least they'll all be in one place around the table.  Soon enough it will be time for evening chores, and Wednesday is garbage night, so the big kids will be busy with that, and then with homework.

Jayden, however, is required only to make sure his face and hands are clean, and perhaps to carry his own little plate to the counter.  This means he and Gramma can head down to the Lego bin.

It's our weekly routine, these Wednesday nights when Gramma is here to put people to bed.  And the Lego has become our first thing to do.  We'll likely get to a puzzle, and maybe even a board game that we'll play with a toddler's imaginative priority, aka a blatant disregard for any rules whatsoever.

But first, it's all about the Lego, and specifically, about the Lego people.



They are in disarray, most of them.  Heads pulled off, even legs and sometimes arms are gone, rent asunder in the past week of play.  It's our labour of love, to help put the people back together.  That's what we do on Wednesday nights, Jayden and I.  And we invest ourselves in this quite seriously, as demonstrated by the impressive duration of attention he is willing to give this every week.

He's not even three.  But his little hands rake through the tumbling, tiny blocks, slowly, methodically, looking so carefully, handing me heads, and pairs of legs, and torsos with arms.  When we find them, all the people parts are laid out on the rug in a line, anticipating their wholeness.  When we find a missing piece from the bin, we match it with the corresponding part laying on the rug.  And then, when we are able to snap together enough pieces - torsos, legs, heads -  we hold up the little Lego person and with joyful satisfaction, declare him or her 'finished', before tossing him or her into the small 'red pail of completion' we've set aside for their collection.


And once we're ready to move on to the puzzle, we dump them all back into the bigger bin, ready for the next week of adventures.  And yes, we know full well they will be pulled apart again.  But that's next Wednesday's job.




I like doing this with Jayden.  He talks to me about everything while we do it, but not in a way where he's expecting conversation.  Just the bubbling spill of toddler thoughts that happen when a Gramma is there to listen to them.



And also, I find the putting together of people, even Lego people, rather therapeutic.

Life, at least my life, is often occasioned with forces that pull me apart.  I'd like to think that I can get my stuff all together and keep it that way, but it doesn't happen like that, at least not for me.  Instead, I find there's something of a rhythm to it.  I'm together, and then I'm not.  And then a loving process helps bring me back together again.  So I'm whole for a bit, yet I'm changed, not the same as before everything went nuts, but put together just the same.  And then, I'm rent asunder again by events that I would call anything but "play".  And then, in a loving process where I am, slowly, methodically, carefully sorted out, left waiting in pieces for a bit, and then rebuilt, I am 'finished' for a while.

And it goes that like.

And every time, I'm changed.  If I've cooperated with the process, with the Hands raking through the tumbling pieces of my life, I'm changed for the better.  Unlike the Lego pieces, the rebuilding of me is not drawn from a static stock of blocks.  It all morphs and becomes stronger, wiser, more beautiful, but in ways I didn't think were strong or wise or beautiful before.   It makes me better, if I cooperate.

I don't like it, the being pulled apart part.  I want the adventures, but I don't like how they scatter me.  Especially the ones that come out of no where.  The ones I actually don't want.  Not at all.  I don't like those adventures.

And there was a time when I didn't like the putting back together part either.  It's slow.  I've been left waiting on the rug for a long time, it has seemed, sometimes.  The snapping back of all the parts can be jarring, painful.

But, the stronger, wiser, more beautiful person I am becoming (in all those ways that didn't seem strong and wise and beautiful to me before), is learning to go with this.  To trust the process.   Trust the love.  Trust the Hands.  To know the Presence that sits listening to my own bubbling spill of thoughts, and to be curious and patient enough to see what He will do with me next.

One day there will be no re-dumping of the finished people back into the bin to contend with forces that render.  One day all the rebuilding of me will be done.



I wonder who I will be by then?

Jayden is done with the Lego people.  He's dragging a chair over to reach for the puzzles.

As I contemplate yet another metaphor, I am grateful for my little teacher, and for all the Spirit says to me these Wednesday nights when the three of us are together.


Wednesday, October 30, 2019

Every Sad Thing That Doesn't Really Matter Any More Because of This

Only existing photo due to camera restrictions.  But it's a winner!


We're planning our day trip to Chiang Mai Zoo.  Yupa tells me me that not too long ago, they opened a Snow Dome.  For an additional fee, "We can play in the snow," she says.   I vow to make sure it will happen, not knowing how much the extra fee will be but not caring one bit.  Give these kids a taste of winter?  You bet! 


Zoo Day is hot.  We stop for water and frozen treats half way into the hour long drive there.  We arrive slightly wilted, but still very excited.  There's lots to see along the shaded pathways.  First we visit the giraffes.




It's the closest I've ever been to one, actually.  They're very interactive since there's leafy food you can buy to actually feed them by hand.  Such beautiful eyes on these creatures.

We won't get so up close and personal with the lions or rhino, but we will be entertained by a white-cheeked gibbon who has become an expert at catching morsels tossed to him.  Hilarious!  He should be signed up for some baseball team, he's that good.





Later I will remember all of this with fondness, mostly because of the way the children are impressed with the animals, reading the information plaques, holding hands with one another, and always some little hand slipping into mine, as we sweat make our way from one exhibit to another. 

But it will be the Snow Dome where I hear Him say it.



The signs warn us that, inside, it's  -7C.   Standing in the hot long line up, this sounds wonderful to me.  We are given red jackets, and I consider refusing mine, but not wanting to push it, I settle for putting it on but not doing it up.  Even stepping into the first room, an ante-chamber of preparation to reduce the shock, there is life and vigor pouring out from behind the larger refrigerator-type door.  My inner Canadian is clamoring to get in there!  But first we listen to the rules, and the warnings about how cold it will be.

And then.

We tumble into a room full of packed down snow with blocks of ice and benches and rubber tubes for the 'sly-DER' aka a short but satisfyingly spinny toboggan hill.   Suddenly the flip flops are ridiculous, but nobody cares.  Just stepping into the cold air brings laughing and squealing and exclamations of wonder and surprise.  It's so cold!  Yes it is!!!!  Welcome to Canada, I say. 

Two by two we climb carefully up a set of stairs where an attendant (read, brave Thai person for working in -7 C all day) helps position us on the tube and pushes us off.  Commence the screaming.  Yes, even the big boys.  Yupa insists I sit at the 'front', which, poor thing, is sort of on top of her, but she's afraid and wants me, the experienced winter sports person, to sort of steer the thing, or manage the thing.  But there is no steering or managing to be done.  We are hurled off without much warning, to whisk up and sideways against an icy snow bank, and thrown, screaming, down and around to where we come to an abrupt stop, aided by yet another brave Thai attendant.

Yupa wants to do it again!!!!!!  And so it goes with all of them.  Their first ever toboggan ride, something they will always remember, because they can, because they weren't months old when it happened for them, like it was for me.

And their finger tips are tingling and their noses red and they can't stop smiling, it's that cold.  They don't mind it at all.  They are loving every single moment.  And it is joy in its purest form.

And that's when He says it to me.

I'm not sure if it happens this way for others, but for me, there are moments, like this one right here and now, when it's as if everything goes into a freeze (pun intended here) and time stands still.  And I have the chance just to look around at the faces and the joy, and I feel it in such an overwhelming sort of way that it's as if the voice of God is speaking.

"See this, Ruth Anne?  See this purity of joy?  Doesn't this, this moment of shalom, shalom (everything as I mean it to be) override all those sad things?"

Pause the pause for a bit of back story.  I think it's because I was eleven years old when, having a missionary speaker come to our church, I first entertained an idea of coming to southeast Asia.  I was just a child.  And I think it's also because because now this is all about the children, I think that's why I make so much connection, so often when I'm here, to my own childhood. 

A lot of sad things happened for me in my childhood, at least that's how I remember them.   And a lot of sad things have happened for these children before coming to live with us. 

But today, in this joy-packed moment of cold amazement, it's as if all those sad things don't matter any more.  It's not like they never happened.  They did, and they are part of our stories, becoming, under God's good grace, part of who we are in strength and compassion and capacity.  But the stink has gone out of them, the sting, the wounding.  There is such healing for me in this frozen moment.

When I was eleven, experiencing the sadness, the weirdness that I couldn't figure out then, if you had told me, don't worry, one day you'll be tobogganing with outrageously delighted children on the other side of the planet and it will all makes sense, I could never have imagined.

And that's what He gives me this day.   A beyond-imagining way of healing for me. 

Time's up for our Snow Dome adventure.  But that's probably okay because some of them are actually shivering by now.  We all reach down and touch the snow once more in fond reverence, and move back as a group to hand over the red jackets we certainly won't need outside.



The fun isn't over, and I will hear echoes of His voice at the Splash pad and also on the ride home when all the fun has napped us all out, and sweaty sleepy littles are told that we're home.  


The whole of it, the admission to the Zoo, and the Aquarium, and the Snow Dome and the Splash Pad, and the frozen treats and lunch and supper, all of it, will only have cost $15 per kid.  Didn't have to worry about the budget one bit. 




Saturday, October 19, 2019

Random Musings Of A Farang With A Camera On A Sunday In Thailand



Random Musing 1. 
I am a Sunday morning sunrise junkie.  Can't get enough of that first-dawn freshness and a day laden with possibilities.  Especially when it includes the gathering of faithful folks with simple lives in complex contexts.  And especially when it includes the chance to be together to remember that first Resurrection morning and the reason for the hope that makes us recklessly brave in the face of anything.



 

Random Musing 2.
Love my Thai ladies.  These three are especially faithful in coming to worship every week.  How did I ever get to be so honoured to be counted among them as part of this church family? 






Random Musing 3.
Could the greeters be any more adorable?



Random Musing 4.
Moved this morning by music and lyrics I am understanding more and more, and by the sweet way the Spirit dances with us and among us, voices lifted in exuberance and defiant praise.




Random Musing 5.
What am I doing, thinking I have anything of consequence to bring to these people as a preacher?  If anything this whole cross-cultural teaching thing only exposes all the weakness, and drills me down to the bare bones of what I believe about anything.  I love/hate the humility of it.  Wouldn't even do it except one of those bare-bones-beliefs is that the Holy Spirit is an excellent translator.  Also and unrelated, a small bug flew right up my nose, right at the end of the sermon, propelled by the perfect intersection of inhalation, fan rotation, and it's own unfortunate misdirection.  Problem solved discretely.  But I do have to put that into the 'never happened to me before' category of preaching stories. [No picture included.  You're welcome.]





Random Musing 6.
Pumpkin Tapioca for dessert at lunch!  Had two helpings and bragged about it to the cook - Yupa's Mom - who couldn't help looking terribly pleased.  You know you've been in Thailand for a while when this kind of stuff makes you hungry!


Wednesday, October 9, 2019

What Makes God Happy and Other Beautiful Things About Ken Being With Me This Trip



It's almost impossible for me to put words to how important it is to my heart that Ken is here.   My own frequency of trips requires a lot from us as a couple.  Ken's enthusiasm, support and love in sending me, time after time, is without question a corner stone of what makes it even possible.

He's the 'home front' guy most of the time.  So, when it works out, on many planes of planning and scheduling, for him to be here for a visit, it's just...the best!

Our first week has been quite full just with adjusting to the time change and also having our dear friends Bill and Celine with us from Sunday night to Wednesday afternoon.  Even so, there have been lots of opportunities for those 'moments' when 'something of heaven touches earth'.

In reflecting on his presence here with friends even before we left for this trip, Ken was asked to write out his thoughts about one particular moment from 2015, the last time he was here.  It's a fantastic story.  And I wanted to give him some space here to tell it.

Ken writes:

For about 6-9 months, I had been doing a personal word search on What Makes God Happy?
I started out with the concordance, but there were only a very few references to 'happy', and not much could be gleaned from these.

 
So... I took the alternative path, and said, What Makes God ANGRY or MAD, or what does God HATE?  Whoa.... Immediately with only a few alternative words, I found 75 different verses. That made for some very interesting reading, and secondary research and analysis.


Taking this train of thought with me to Thailand, we are sitting in the fellowship hall / gym,  and I am looking around at the faces of the 19 kids, of the cook (a widow, currently awaiting knee surgery), Suradet and Yupa, and of a trio of Bible College students also staying on the church grounds.   Their faces are blissfully entranced in worship, focusing totally on God and on Jesus, and on what He has done for them.
 
I couldn't understand a word of what they were singing, but I knew they really meant it.



One evening, after devotions, comes Games Time.  As the children line up for the game, this old guy decides that this is a good game to sit out.  Included in the collage of children is one recent arrival, May.   When May came to Hot Springs, just a number of months before, they took a 'welcoming' picture of her.  In her picture, May looked sad, and a little bit afraid, and under-nourished.
 
Now, in my perspective of watching the participants line up on the other side of the gym, I hear the leader call out "GO!" [OCTOPOOT!!!! A form of tag that involves a lot of running and happy screaming.]

 
Running, at full speed, directly towards me is May. She is no longer afraid, she is confident, knowing that she is going to make it across the gym safely. Her face has filled out in the short time since she arrived, and she is using all of her round, healthy face to laugh out loud, while she enthusiastically races towards my side of the gym.

God very clearly tapped me on the shoulder, and said to me, "Ken, You were looking for what makes me happy?
Look around at the widows and orphans, with their bellies full, and their hearts full of joy, singing praises to Me,  in a foreign tongue, and in a foreign land.  That is what makes me happy."

 
I looked up from where I was, knowing only a little bit of where these kids had come from, from families that could not afford to send them to school, or even to feed or clothe them, and I lost it.   I started crying then and there.

God is Good... All the Time    All the Time ... God Is Good.

And then,, a couple of days later, I was directed to Psalm 104, verses 33-34, where God DELIGHTS in our worship.  Just sort of as a Stamp of Confirmation that God is interested even in my own personal devotions.

Now I have a whole new set of words to search through to find out what DELIGHTS God.


It's so very affirming when your life-partner 'gets it' at such a deep level.

Can't wait to see what God's got for us this time out. 

Wednesday, September 18, 2019

Unrushed: The Way A Soul Is Formed

My youngest grandson Jayden has quite a lot to say.



He's already two and a half, so that shouldn't be any surprise.  But the way our summers go, it means I have lots of intensive time with grandkids near the beginning, and then only sporadic, quick hellos over the rest of July and August.  It's not until September routines begin again, including our regular Wednesday nights, that we really get to spend enough time together.  Because of the gap, I notice the growth spurts, especially when they're little.

And Jayden, over the summer, became quite the little communicator.

Two-word phrases, have become longer, more complex sentences.  "Put your keys here Gramma", he tells me, reaching way up and patting a little hand on the surface of the small table inside the door where Mom and Dad leave theirs.  "Come downstairs for the toys," he insists, taking my hand and pulling me along.  Bringing me separated pieces of the Playmobil stables he says, "Fix it, please."  And remembering something that happened yesterday his eyes get wide and serious as he recounts, "A big, black (said with a lot of 'l') spider on the wall!"  When I ask what happened to it, he says enthusiastically, "We slapped it!" (also with a lot of 'l').

Gone are the days where everyone was simply "beeping" (sleeping), or he would ask for "waller" (water), or he would point outside and ask to go "side".  (And to be honest, I miss the 'beeping' thing.)
Now he's a man with a wordy mission and isn't shy (at least with family) to speak his mind.

Within the span of just a few months, all this happened.  And with Jayden, as with the others who are now way too big in my opinion (Abby especially, since she's taller than me at 13), I just want it to slow down!

(Sigh) They grow up so fast.

Did I mention that Abby is taller than me now?

It's not how I feel about every  kind of growth, though.

This at-the-speed-of-light kind of transformation in toddlers is contrasted with another kind of growth that happens for adult me in what seems like excruciatingly small, slow (said with a lot of 'l') increments.  

I'm speaking of my soul.

I'm talking about my spiritual formation.

Why can't things like wisdom, just as one example, take the same kinds of leaps and bounds in a matter of months as Jayden's vocabulary?  Why is it that it seems to take so long to move on from the monosyllabic grunts of common courtesy, as another example, to the free-flowing sentences of fully-formed compassion?  And, irony of irony, why does it take so long to learn the syntax of patience?

And before you gently remind me to be as patient with myself as I expect myself to be with others (good advice, so thank you), let me get to my point; something I've been pondering over and settling into over the past few months as I press onward in this rich and demanding stage of my life.

The forming of a soul cannot be rushed.

Unlike the speedy language neurons in a toddler's malleable brain, connecting experience A with insight B in the spiritual realm often takes its meandering, pensive way through much messy meditation before any progress is evident in the living-out of life.

What this means is that I, and others eager to be all God created them to be, find it to be a slow and plodding thing.  Sometimes I get discouraged.  I certainly have in the past.  High expectations for everything, especially my speed of my spiritual formation.  Hurry up and get wise, you soul you.  Let's get on with the compassion thing.  When will you ever, ever have this patience thing down! 

But these days, in these rich days of my sixties, I think - I hope -  I am more and more inclined just to let it all take it's time.  At least it feels that way to me.  Because that's how the real stuff happens.  That's what gives it substance.  No person possessing wisdom, compassion, patience got that way overnight.  They've lived life.  They've engaged their pain and joy with equal passion.  They've been persistent and intentional about their soul-growth over the long haul.

This weekend Mom and Dad will be away, so I will have Jayden and the big kids too with me at our house.  No doubt I will have a whole list of adorable things they have said and done to keep tucked away in my Gramma's heart, and/or to write down so I won't forget them.   We're building memories.  And I hope they remember these weekends at Gramma and Gradad's.  I hope they remember the trampoline and having little plots of garden to themselves.  I hope they remember trips to the Dollar Store and eating ice cream on the couch while watching movies.  I hope they'll remember all that fun stuff.

But mostly, I hope - and I'm working on it so that -- what they remember is that, for all that, in the end, Gramma had an unrushed soul. 

Probably not what I'm best known for right now. 

But,
sigh,
it's a slow work in progress. 




Thursday, September 5, 2019

Rear End Wisdom: A Two-James Story




But the wisdom that comes from heaven is first of all pure; 
then peace-loving, considerate, submissive, 
full of mercy and good fruit, 
impartial and sincere. 
James 3:17

Many things boggle me.

Math for one.  In fact I’m convinced that the part of my brain that does math died in grade four.   No math problem is too easy for me to figure out.  Makes me profoundly grateful for calculators, on line conversion charts, and a husband with an Honours Math degree.

Bridge for another.  I mean the card game.  Never caught on to that, despite my husband’s desperate coaching from across the table, and my in-laws’ dearest hopes that we could make a go of it.  Probably had to do with the math.

And then there’s computers.  How is it that I can be offline, up at the cottage where the connections are terrible even when I’m trying to be online, and yet, while in the midst of writing an important letter that needs to be oh-so-delicately worded, my computer, of its own free will, informs me that it’s shutting down so it can ‘upgrade’?  Who’s doing that?  Where are the upgrades even coming from if I’m offline?   And so, with boggled mind, I am held captive by unseen forces and compelled to rewrite that delicate letter!

One more.  Scheduling.  Particularly at this time of year, September, when everything’s getting back into gear.  You’ve got so many different moving parts, different family members, team members, all spinning around their own calendar orbits, and somehow you’ve got to make it all map out in a doable dance.  There’s quantum physics and there’s scheduling.  Like that.

Yes, these and many things boggle my mind.

But still, somewhere inside of me, I long to be wise.

This makes me very glad that being smart and being wise aren’t the same things. 

Not at all.

I confess to you these personal mind-bogglers at great risk.   Because I know that they make me look stupid and, just like everyone, I don’t really want to look stupid.  I want you to think of me as smart, or at least smart enough.  I know this is true of me because otherwise why would I sometime use big words I know I’ll have to explain, or mention that I’m working on my MDiv even when the conversation does not in any way require it, or talk about all the research I’m doing at the moment on the topic I’ve just worked cleverly into the conversation?  And you can be sure I’ll steer clear of anything in a social setting that requires math!  It’s called ‘image management’ and we do it all the time.  Maybe not about being smart, but about being popular or athletic or accomplished or special in any way that helps us look good in the eyes of whomever we might be with at the time. 

And right now I need to apologize because if ‘image management’ is something you haven’t heard about before and don’t think applies to you, in the next few days you’ll catch yourself doing it.  Sorry about that.  But we all do it.  It’s part of being human and needing to belong.

But it’s not smart.  It’s not even wise.

Purity.  That’s wise.  And loving peace.  That’s wise.  So is being considerate, and being submissive.  Wait.  Being submissive?  Wise?   Apparently so.  Right along with being full of mercy, and full of the demonstration of the good fruit (reminds us of the fruit of the Spirit perhaps – love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, self-control, that fruit) of a life well lived.   And it’s wise to be impartial.  And it’s wise to be sincere.

At least according to James.  He’s comparing a ‘wisdom’ that’s full of envy and selfish ambition, and dare I say ‘image management’, to the kind of wisdom that comes ‘from heaven’, from God’s heart.

I know a whole lot of people who don’t necessarily have a lot of education, and aren’t particularly athletic, and may or may not have fashion sense.  They might not even be all that articulate come to think of it.  But if James’ list is accurate, they’ve got truck loads of wisdom.

Reminds me of another James. 

He stopped to make sure I was all right after watching me be rear-ended on a divided roadway.  I was fully stopped and the person behind me was distracted and ran into me at full speed of 60 km or more. 

James didn’t need to stop.  It was a divided roadway and he was completely unaffected by the accident.  But he pulled over and approached my car and talked me through that first hour while the police arrived and then my husband.  He was the first to speak to me, telling me he’d had a similar accident himself and instructing me not to move my neck at all until I could be assessed.  He called 911.  He dug out my phone from my purse and helped me dial my husband.  He kept me engaged in light conversation to assess my initial cognitive function and keep me calm. 

He was from Newfoundland, he told me, and a few other introductory facts about himself I don’t remember.  He even mercifully lied to me when I asked him to walk around the van to estimate the damage.  Ultimately the van was totalled, with the sliding side door pushed up far enough to prevent the passenger side front door from opening.  “You’ve got a bit of bumper work” was what he told me. 

And then he disappeared.  Ken arrived, the police had all the information, I was heading to the hospital to be checked out.  I know I said thank you.  But I didn’t have the presence of mind to get his information.   But I kept my neck stable, and later, with the additional help of the emergency doctor and my massage therapist, I made a full recovery from what could have been a significant, life-impacting whiplash. 

What a wise man, that James!  And I’m grateful, and if you’re out there and you recognize yourself, please know that I deeply appreciate your wisdom that day.  In purity you approached with no thought of any benefit to yourself at all.  You kept me calm and peaceful.  You were so considerate, and you completely cooperated with the police when they came, and went over to inquire about the other driver on my behalf when I asked you to.  Your actions were full of mercy and the fruit of a life lived well.  You did not take sides in the cause of the accident, that wasn’t at all in your spirit.  Just there to help me.  And I remember you as being just a kind and sincere man, James.  Thank you so much.

I long to be wise. 
That kind of wise. 
So boggle my mind with quantum physics. 
So be the mysteries of the universe. 
But it’s actually really quite simple to be wise like James. 

Both of them.